Accelerate application discovery

properly handle config files and switching on/off dev_mode

Introduce option `enable_shallow_app_discovery` which is disabled by
default.

When enabled searching for `*.app` files is done by using
`filelib:wildcard/1` and doesn't recursively traverse all directories
under `libs_dir` root dirs.

Instead its assumed that each directory on `libs_dir` list contains a
flat list of application dirs or is an app itself.

`rlx_prv_discover` provider recursively scans all directories in
`lib_dirs` list looking for `*.app` and `*.rel` files.

This commit adds an option `disable_rel_discovery` to skip searching for
`*.rel` files when we know there aren't any. This speeds up release
generation with a lot of dependencies on the `libs_dir` list
significantly and reduces total release generation time in half.

Properly detect the default release and fail on conflicts